Change

People change their ideas. They change their tastes. They change their favorite band. They change their friends.

They change their mind.

It's been said, "you can't change people." over and over and over again.
It's in books, movies, songs, everyday conversations. Everyone seems to agree, and so do I. I'm sure I've given someone that exact advice.
If you asked me, "do you think you can change a person?"
I'd answer whole-heartedly:

"Of course not."

Words are just words, however; the only real way of knowing what you believe is when you are thrown into a situation where you are forced to put them into action.

I thought I believed it.

I thought I was positive a person was unchangeable, until I ended up tossing and turning at night for a week straight, restless, waiting for a person to come around. I spent all my effort giving them chances to reshape their decisions for me; I was still left unrequited, still trying.
I subconsciously thought they would change, but of course I was wrong. When it all comes down to it, all you can ever hope for is to love with all of our heart, and be the best you can possibly be towards the people you care about. If they still aren't willing to meet you there, their loss.
Almost everyone regrets losing someone that gave them their all at one point or another; whether it's a guilt-driven regret or a true longing for them, they regret it.


But don't live to be someone's regret, live to be a good memory, an example of someone who truly cared. If they didn't appreciate you when they had the chance, that's all they deserve to have of you: a memory.

After all, you can't change people.

I seem to only blog about boys, but I guess that's all that's really been on my mind lately <3 after seeing what I DON'T deserve, I am now figuring out what I do deserve...and it's a pretty big list ;D

I want a boy who is not afraid to stand up for me when he needs to.
I want a boy who will fight with me on my side no matter what.

I want a boy who will wake up in the morning and bring me breakfast,
a boy who will know and love all my favorite things.

A boy who will be patient with me, because I do get mad sometimes, and sometimes the reasons are completely and utterly ridiculous.
Sometimes I'm going to say I don't want to be with you; but we all know I do. Just tell me you love me, and wait for the storm to pass.

You have to like my dog. He's a sweetheart :)

I want a boy who will tell me the truth when I need to hear it.
Maybe I shouldn't've said that to my friend; will you please let me know? Help me be a better person.

I want a boy who will be my best friend. I'll tell you all my secrets, and you tell me yours. Promise to try to understand me, and I'll do the same.

I want a boy who will do little things to make me happy. A million little things can sometimes be better than one big thing.

Make me feel like I'm important. Pick me over things you usually wouldn't sometimes; I'll do the same for you.

Have friends; and let me have mine. I need time with my girls, and you need time with your guys. Just don't ditch me for them.

I'm more important than your girl "best friend".

Ask me out on dates, I love to get ready, dress up, and go out with you.

Snuggle with me when it rains outside. When you know its gonna be stormy, call me and tell me you're coming over. Bring movies and my favorite candy <3

Take me to the park on sunny days, and lets just walk around together, hold hands, and talk.

Talk to me about my life, about everything. I want to know you actually care.

Tell me I'm beautiful, as often as you can. I already know you think it, but it's just so great to hear.


I just want a boy, who will give me exactly what I deserve. It may take years for me to find this, but oh is it worth the wait <3

You can't change people; the only thing you can ever be certain of is to be true to yourself, and one day someone who loves you for just that will come along, and be twice the person the one who didn't, ever was <3

In a Perfect World

I want a boy to fall in love with me.
And I want to fall in love with him.

I don't want to be the one begging on my knees for the relationship to work; and I don't want him to do that, either.

I want to be happy; I want him to be happy, too.
I want to be certain of our love; I want him to know for sure that I'm what he wants.

I don't want to fight all of the time to be satisfied; and I'd never want him to do that with me.

I just want to smile. I want someone who will treat me right, someone who I will treat right. Someone to fall in mutual love with, and to promise to work it out no matter what comes our way. I want someone who cares about me, and I want to care about them <3